Why did I highlight this topic? The reason is to understand the condition of our society and take heed of the negative impact on ourselves and kids.
Our first education is at home, when parents are sole inspiration and lots to learn from speaking in an accent, socializing, getting involved in the culture & practicing religion of that community, Our kids start to follow whatever they had listen or taught in their childhood days, but that for a moment changed when the kids start to grow up and socializing in groups, this is the most vital part of their life because the mixtures of thoughts and perspectives. And before you can say something to inspire them, they push your perception off because they are now sixteen and can make their own decision in life. Suddenly they are influenced and start the smoking habit, taking weed, because everybody takes it. then the parents started to comment, so he could stop smoking, he blurted out, “dad smokes why shouldn’t I smoke”.
What! You started to raise your eyebrow in disbelief.
Let’s discuss further. The parent started to ask questions: “When did my child get influenced, we have taken care of him since childhood”.
You see, we use to watch movies in the cinemas, but now movies, shows, games are just at the palm of the hand, any person can just flip and click a button and poof everything is there to watch and enjoy to the desires of the heart. And worse watching more movies in his own room, without any parent to monitor whatever he is doing behind their parents. We call this influence; he can’t stop immorality because he is addicted to it.
To monitor, we can place the study desk in the living room, so the teenager knows that he is being watched all the time, next, is to install an app to monitor his phone messages and internet history. Parent should also build bonding by talking to the children, because if he got bored at home, he might do other things outside the knowledge of the parent.
Worse yet to come, what if the parents are homeless, the society that he lives in is corrupted from taking weed, drugs, alcoholic beverages to vulgarism, what do you think to expect in such conditions of the corrupted society.
What if the child who is now sixteen had to fend for himself out of the streets
to provide his own food and shelter. Well, he is supposed to meet challenges in life and THINK FOR HIMSELF, to be matured, but he may not survive on the streets with hooligans and drug trafficking.
What if the child is a teenage girl, she may be involved whatever just stated above, and added to it staying in an apartment with a boyfriend and now pregnant, or perhaps was raped by strangers and worse selling herself to get enough money for the day.
Please think about the consequences above, think for a moment.
What if the parents are divorced?
every one of the parents lift their fingers from taking care of the children, where should they go, orphanage home, grandparents, adoption. Which route to go. The child lives in confusion, doesn’t know what to do, or chooses whether to live with dad or mum. And what if he is an illegitimate child, born without the love and care of parents.
Life becomes chaos, where should the child go to seek help, Confused, what’s the solution.
The child is like a fish in an aquarium, he is confined to accept whatever in that environment, his perspectives, attitude, horizon, knowledge and thinking depends on or confined to the boundaries of the glass aquarium. There is apparently nowhere for him to go, accept circling his life in the glass. He practices his religion, such as prayers or fasting because he is told to do so, because everyone in the community performs prayers and fasting. But the teenager never knew the purpose or reason for such deeds, he followed in obedience, but no background of reasons and purpose. His faith to God is transferred from the family, but he has no sense of faith because he needs to search for truth and find God by understanding his religion, the history of the prophets and some Islamic knowledge. Faith is not enough. Taking a course in a private madrasah is not enough. Here comes the part where parents have to get involved instilling moral values and life mottos.
The first approach to resolve a situation stated above is:
Reallocate to a safe society and communities.
First: Get out from that environment of corrupted society. That said, moved away from society and live in other states which is safer for the family. Search for a place that has no drug activities, karaoke, disco clubs, back alleys, shopping mall. The point is to find a safe environment. Live near friends or neighbors that are good and well mannered. Because the child will develop values according to the society he lives. He gets lots of values and character building from parents, siblings, neighbors, and friends.
So, it is wise to choose the right place to live, to inculcate good values.
The best place, if possible, near a mosque, where you and kids can just walk to the mosque and get involved with the activities. But you also need to consider the type of mosque that you go to. A mosque which has lots of activities and dakwa could be the best choice. May be take part in volunteering, the small part you do, can be the best memories of your life, never think or offended of what other people comment, whether it is about your job or activities, just move on and making sure that whatever you do, it makes you closer to Allah. And being close to Allah is the most wonderful thing in life.
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